Bucket Fillers and Dippers
In preparation for home school I made a positive behavior reward system based on the book, Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids, by Carol McCloud. The basic concept of this book is that every person carries around an invisible bucket. You can either do things that add to the person’s bucket to make them feel good, being a bucket filler, or you can do mean things that take away from another person’s bucket, being a bucket dipper. There are a lot of videos of the book being read on youtube.
We want bucket fillers in our house, and the great thing is when you are a bucket filler, you fill your own bucket too because it feels good to make other’s feel good. This is in the metaphorical sense, of which I created a concrete version. Here’s what it looks like:
I made the documents, laminated them, and put them on the side of a large mason jar with tape. Velcro would be my next choice, but they haven’t budged with just regular tape.
I am more than happy to email anyone these documents if you contact me! You can also customize them to fit your needs.
The large jar will be filled with balls each time the kids are being bucket fillers and a ball will be taken away when the kids are being bucket dippers (mostly the case right now as they scream and destroy my house while I write this). I’m also using this for our field trips. When we fill the jar or bucket we will take a special trip. I added clear behavior expectations to each side of the jar for what it means to be a bucket filler or dipper.
|Bucket Fillers||Bucket Dippers|
|Be respectful to each other
Listen to Mommy
Give a compliment
Give hugs or kisses
Help each other
Be a kind brother or sister
Help clean up and do chores
|Call people names – even if they aren’t here!
Say bad words or mean things
Being a bully
Tattling to get someone in trouble
Making fun of someone
Hurting someone with hands or biting
Pushing or shoving
Telling someone they can’t play with you
Here are pictures of these description cards on the side of the mason jar.
I highly recommend the book for children of all ages. It is a great social story resource. While I’m adding this to our homeschool, any parent could use to add structure and clear behavior expectations to attempt a smoother running home with small children. Mommas know that struggle is real, beyond real actually, it’s freaking unreal and makes me want to pull my hair out. Which, I’ll admit I do sometimes…… 🙂